The following tips will make the transition a little more bearable for the child.I knew from the minute he entered my house that this was going to be a learning experience for him.I was going to be the teacher and help him change his behaviors.I entered the relationship with the “this is the way it’s going to be” attitude.After we had gone over all the points in the agreement, I explained he would need to sign the agreement.I explained that by signing and dating it, he was agreeing to everything. More than once I brought out or referred to “the agreement” over the next few months.I explained that in reality it would be his choice to follow the conditions of living in my home.Many of these rebellious teens have never been allowed to make decisions.
One of the suggestions from my counselor friend was to write out an agreement about the conditions of living in my home.
It is important to help the adults in the home where the child is headed to understand the importance of boundaries, rituals, and adjusting to day-to-day life.
The adults need to keep in mind this child has been removed from the only life he has known.
Before they went to court, my niece asked if I would take in my fifteen-year-old nephew.
Unsure of what to do, I contacted a friend of mine who was on staff at the Oklahoma Baptist Children’s Home. Most people don’t know where to go or whom to consult regarding such an issue.
If you are contacted by a church member, how will you help him set up his home so he can be successful at accommodating someone else’s rebellious teen?