Does online dating work for older people
Online dating has been blamed for an increase in the rate of over-65s who are now getting divorced.While overall divorce rates are falling, the over-65s have bucked the trend and are growing, according to the latest figures from the Office for National Statistics.The report added: ‘People aged 65 and over are more likely than ever to be working, and therefore be able to support themselves outside marriage.‘They’re also catching up with younger people in their use of the internet – perhaps trying out online dating?’Marriage rates – the number of people getting married as a proportion of the rest of the population – rose by a fifth.Because people are living longer, many think “I don’t want to stay in this marriage for another 30 years”.‘People are also getting remarried later in life as a result as well.’Earlier this year, ONS figures showed older people were increasingly using the internet with 78 per cent of those aged 65 to 74 having ‘recently’ used it in 2017. The recent ONS said it meant they were ‘catching up with younger people in their use of the internet – perhaps trying out online dating’. I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.
Sarah Jane Lenihan, a family lawyer at Slater and Gordon, said the internet was regularly a factor in divorce among older people.‘We have definitely seen a rise with the rise of internet dating and it being more acceptable to start again,’ she said.‘There’s less taboo and more acceptance of both divorce and online dating.The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!In other words, knowingly sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue.It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.
And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. I can’t disagree with anything you’ve observed about online dating and age. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women (online and in real life) because they can usually date somewhat younger.