In addition to our kinky activities, we loved going on weekend hikes, watching endless episodes of and trying new recipes.
It took about a year before it was clear that our relationship was becoming serious.
And I mean that literally: He tied me up in the center of the room.
I felt incredibly vulnerable and incredibly turned on.
I know that sounds strange, but hear me out: I've had very intense fantasies since I was a teenager.
Well before I fantasized about submission, anonymous sex, and having sex while other people watched.
We'd experiment with different types of kinky sex, but I didn't imagine that it would turn into a relationship. Even though I felt better about my sexuality, I still thought I was in a try-anything phase and that once I crossed off everything on my sexual bucket list, I'd settle down with someone vanilla.
But the longer Derek and I hung out, the more I realized how deep our connection ran.
We've been doing this since we met at a sex party in New York City.I know it's risky, but the way I see it, you take risks every day.We're as careful as we can be, and luckily, it seems a lot of the partygoers we associate with feel similarly.We moved in together six months later and got engaged two years after we met.There was never a question of whether we'd continue with kink—it's a huge part of what makes us tick.
Here was a man I could share my deepest, darkest desires with—and he could match them.