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Taking some time to yourself and getting comfortable outside of a relationship might be valuable, and can help you avoid the temptation to “make do” with someone who’s “good” but not what you’re looking for, no matter the gender of the person you’re dating.
(Unless the fact that you’re in a relationship with a guy is exclusively what’s bringing you down.
This is easy when we’re talking about the work of the workshop room.
But in real life, away from the creative writing classroom, the deep fantasy, Anonymous, it’s trouble.
If you’re someone who’s good at pretending, deep fantasies can be especially bothersome.
)We don’t want to line edit your letter and offer life advice in the margin notes, Anonymous, but we do see something in your letter that is very telling.Maybe they remind us that what we want is not what we have.Maybe they remind us that what we have is not what we want.You mention that moving alone to a new place would be “terrifying” to you—definitely an understandable feeling—but one that might be worth noting, since you’ve held on to this unfulfilling relationship for a while.Sometimes relationships—even ones that aren’t working—are a welcome distraction against looking inward and the feelings we have when we’re alone.