What does dating on the rebound mean
Maria wasn’t discouraged: A week later at a family party, she ran into a guy she used to babysit when he was 12, who had since grown into a 23-year-old (with abs).
“He was following me around the party like a puppy,” she told me, “and then he started rubbing my leg under the table. I helped you with your math homework.’ In a better mind frame I probably wouldn’t have fucked him, but I was like, ‘Ya know what—whatever, let’s just do this whole fantasy thing.’ And it turned out to be a really fun, hot experience.” She had hit her sexual stride.
“Even though verbally I was saying, ‘I’m not looking for a boyfriend,’ in my head I thought, ‘Yup, we’ll get married—that’s it, I won!
’ In hindsight, I just needed a warm body to watch Netflix with, to avoid the existential anxiety of being alone.
The idea that I could still be with someone felt safer to me, which is probably something I should unpack with my shrink.”Of course, not everyone leaves a relationship and quickly lies to themselves about finding “the one”; for some people, it takes a village.
“I hadn’t been in love with my ex in a while, so it was thrilling to feel any connection with someone.
And when I was with my ‘rebounds’ I forgot about my ex completely, which is a big deal.”The point is, we can all give ourselves a break for being sexually psychotic, post-breakup. Like, if I’m going to jump out of a burning building, I’d always prefer to land on an air mattress (with abs)—I’ll still probably end up crippled, but it will hurt a little less.
It probably won’t surprise you that my last rebound and I didn’t work out.
Like, okay, so you’re visiting from Macedonia and can’t speak English and have a tribal tattoo—yes, you’re approved, just don’t break anything.
The funny thing about a classic rebound is that, often, everyone can see that you’re rebounding—except you.
Case in point: my friend “Clara,” a 32-year-old civil rights lawyer.